|At the pool and this is what Shep wants to play with!! He LOVES music!|
FINDING A NEW NORMAL
As a family we are finding a new normal!!! We are all learning to adjust things back to the pre-school level. Short bursts of activity instead of long...mid day naps where the whole house stops...and lots of ABC's and 123's. Our oldest three are doing so amazing!! They are terrific older siblings.
We are learning so much about Shep!! He loves music (like his Mom!!! maybe a future worship leader?!?), puzzles, riding his bike that his Grand dad got him, swimming at Cha Cha's (our aunt's house), he is even starting to like our dog Pretzel!! He is a very smart, agreeable and sweet little boy.
He is very attached to his Big Sister Sophie. He absolutely adores her. Our social worker was surprised he wasn't more attached to Sadie with her being Chinese. I told her...oh...he likes Sadie all right...he wants to kiss her all the time!! LOL!! He must think she is pretty!! ;) We have to tell him Sadie is his SISTER, not a girl friend!! HA!!! Too funny!!
Shepard does like Silas....but you can tell he feels some what of a competition toward a boy. This must be something he picked up from being in an orphanage. We have explained it to Silas and are working on helping him learn to bond with Shep on Shep's terms...and helping Shepard learn that he is not in competition with Silas for attention. It's a process and we will find it with the Lords help, wisdom and direction. They will be big buddies before you know it!!
FIRST CHURCH VISIT
Last Sunday we took Shepard to church for the first time...and he did wonderful!! He clung to us with his dear life...and when people wanted to see him...he was very shy...and wanted mom and dad. For an adopted child...this is VERY good to see...especially with strangers!! It means he KNOWS who his mom and dad are and feels safe with them!! Bonding is taking place and it is a very good thing!!! He made it through most of the church service. He LOVED the music...and after shouting out loud during the sermon....restlessness set in and Mark took him out to look around. We have taught Shepard some sign language...and he kept giving Mark the "all done" sign...and saying Bye Bye to everyone. LOL!! He was done!! It was a success though and we will slowly ease back into things. We will be sensitive to his needs for sure before we just jump back in and serve. Our ministry is our family right now...and in due season...we will know when and where to proceed!!!
INTEREST IN ADOPTION
One of the biggest blessings is we have had so many people contact us with interest in adoption and adopting. What a blessing it is to us to be able to share, encourage, mentor, and support others as they pursue walking down this road. Mark and I truly have a desire to see an organized effort in mentoring others through the process of adoption, helping families raise funds, and providing support after the adoption. We are praying about ways to make this happen. If YOU are someone interested in adoption...let us know and we'll be glad to help you get pointed in the right direction!!
That's it for now!!! I don't want to bore everyone with all the normalcy of life...but I do want to keep you all posted!!! I do have one prayer request....we have had several people ask us if we can do photos for them. Since we had to borrow $11,000 for the final portion of our adoption expenses...we do not want to say no...we want to say yes because we do NOT want to be in debt. Pray that we would find the best way to do these photos without being separated from Shep...and to where we can raise the rest of the money we owe for the adoption. We sure appreciate those prayers!!! We know God will give us wisdom. We just want to be sure we move in the right way and at the right time!!
Also...Mark has a "product" he has been working on since December and we are waiting on the first prototype to come in. Once it comes in...we will be submitting it to some companies praying that it will be picked up for their stores. Please pray for favor regarding this. Maybe this would be a way God would choose to help provide as well!! :)
Thanks a ton!! We love and appreciate you all!! We will keep you posted as we have more new and interesting news!!
Mark & Buffi